TOMS shoes have become popular for two reasons- the shoes themselves and the fact that purchases of these shoes will help provide shoes for children in need. This sort of ethical chic has made these shoes trendy. Usually, TOMS shoes have become the new "it" shoes for the casual set, especially their slip-on espadrilles. These shoes usually either are seen in canvas or in glittery designs. Either way, these casual shoes have become trendy. These shoes are for both males and females, both young and old. TOMS also makes T-shirts and sunglasses among other things.
In case you don't know what TOMS shoes are like, here are some of the ever-popular TOMS:
^ from: amazon.com (best I could find) - TOMS' quote: "One pair sold = one pair donated." This Santa Monica, CA, USA-based company is all about providing shoes for needy children. All it takes is a purchase of one of their shoes.
A lot of people, however, think TOMS are incredibly ugly with truly no sense of style. There are those who would think of TOMS as the warm-weather alternative to sheepskin boots. Some people may even question if efforts are TRULY going to children most in need of shoes. You know you have a crowd that buys into one's practices, and then you have the crowd questions one's practices. I want to believe that these shoes have caught on mostly due in part to the ethical side of these shoes. You're buying a pair of TOMS to help out others who could use a pair of shoes. You aren't giving people in need a pair of designer shoes, but you are providing shoes for the less fortunate to wear. Any sort of benevolence is always in style all year long.
A TOMS Rival?
Skechers' answer to TOMS is called BOBS. These shoes are similarly styled to TOMS but share the same purpose- giving shoes to children in need. A link to BOBS will be provided later in this post if you want to learn more about BOBS.
What Do I Think About TOMS Shoes?
From a fashion perspective, I think TOMS shoes are the successor to VANS slip-on sneakers or the ubiquitous Converses. From an ethical perspective, there is one thing that will NEVER go out of style- benevolence. Knowing your money is going towards helping someone in need is always a great feeling. I am not going to go question others' practices or anything. I am not that kind of person. I am very sure that if I were to buy a pair of TOMS, that I think my purchase would go towards helping a child most in need of some shoes.
These shoes are just the latest of the comfortable and casual shoes. So whether you think these are horridly ugly or stylish, (at least from TOMS) the most important thing is that you are getting these shoes to help children in need of shoes.
--- Resources and Links ---
Here are various resources and links for you on this topic;
• TOMS official website can be found here: www.toms.com.
• To get an idea of what TOMS is trying to accomplish, there is a campaign online called One Day Without Shoes. My vast feminine audience certainly wouldn't want to imagine a day without shoes (especially girls who love shoes). However, imagine if we didn't have any shoes to wear. Learn more by having a look at this website: One Day Without Shoes.
• I mentioned Skechers' BOBS. If you want to learn more about the BOBS collection from Skechers, please have a look at this site: BOBS Shoes by Skechers.
I may provide more material if I decide to edit this with new information. But for now, have a look at these links.
--- Cross-Promotion/Other Readings ---
These are some blog posts of mine that may interest you based on some of the topics discussed here. Have a look at these posts (as well as comment if you choose to) and see what all else I have blogged about similar to this topic:
• "Espadrilles" - John's Blog Space The popular TOMS shoes are essentially slip-on espadrilles. This post of mine talks about espadrilles in general.
• "Eco-Friendly Fashion" - John's Blog Space TOMS shoes are environmentally-friendly. A long time ago, I blogged about eco-friendly fashions, including various vegan shoes and more. This blog post called "Eco-Friendly Fashion" is a discussion of environmentally-friendly fashion. Why look stylish at the expense of harming the environment?
These are really the two real blog posts really with relevance to this topic.
You can visit www.toms.com to learn more about TOMS. If you don't mind shopping for some TOMS, I'd like for you to look at these TOMS shoes below. I would appreciate your business and kindness if you were to support my work in this way. Consider this my way of thanking you for reading my blog post:
WARNING: This blog post and its content matter may NOT be suitable for all audiences. Read at your own discretion.
The transgender realm branches itself into a number of topics and subtopics. There are a lot of people who have a lot of views about varying degrees of transgendered folk. Some think they are the scum of the earth. Some are disgusted by them. Some don't fully know or understand transgendered folk to respectfully discuss topics concerning them. Because of this, one of my real aims of this blog post is to properly and professionally discuss transgender and all of its connotations. When I created the "LGBT Issues" label, I created it with the intent of discussing issues involving LGBT (Lesbian/Gay/Bisexual/Transgender) issues and topics. I will CERTAINLY discuss the "T" to "LGBT" in this blog post!
This very long blog post is a look at transgendered folk from a respectful standpoint. Prepare to experience a lot of reading because I will try to mention as many topics regarding transgendered folk as possible. It is all in an attempt to better educate my audience. I wanted to discuss a few subtopics regarding transgendered people, but I have possible related blog posts in the works related to different aspects of this huge topic. If you are even going to think about this topic, at least be properly educated and introduced to transgendered folk. My massive blog post may hopefully get you started.
BEFORE I BEGIN...
I have blogged about many topics that may please or displease my readers. One of my most ambitious blog posts is sure to be one that I am sure will either be acceptable to my readers or be a completely unacceptable topic to read about. It is nothing new for my blog. I discussed a few topics sure to get some people uncomfortable or not result in any sort of negative reaction. I sometimes bear an important responsibility by introducing certain things to readers. I bear a greater responsibility discussing something truthfully for educational purposes. Remember that my blog is about anything and everything I choose to discuss with quality. So if I don't post anything of quality, I am doing a disservice to myself and my readers/visitors who visit John's Blog Space for quality material. Therefore, this post was made on factual proof and on professional-style opinions.
Are You or Someone You Know Transgendered? If you are or know someone who is transgendered, and if you're reading this blog post; I'd like to say hello to you and hope that my blog post will be to your liking. I'd like to welcome the "T" community of LGBT to John's Blog Space and this topic on transgender.
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APR 2 2012 - added another resource
Contents of This Blog Post:
With a lot of reading ahead, I decided I share my points with you in this makeshift Table of Contents. This is your preview of what this blog post entails.
general info on transgender ...basic info and introduction to transgendered folk.
understanding transgender ...basic terms are explained here regarding transgendered people. This even includes a look at misconceptions and media portrayal of transgender people.
personal and psychological aspects of transgender ...a look at personal issues and psychological aspects of being transgender.
Transgendered Youth Focus: transgendered children? ...believe it or not, there are children who experience the same sort of doubts about their true gender. This section takes a look at transgendered children and the different challenges they face.
Transgendered Youth Focus: transgendered teenagers ...transgender issues involving teenagers and young adults are mentioned here.
grave danger for transgendered youth ...certain dangers expressed by me regarding transgendered youth.
how to be confident as a transgender ...how do you become confident when transgendered?
final thoughts on transgender ...my lasting thoughts to consider when thinking about or mentioning this topic.
Resources ...online resources you can use to learn more about transgender people from a factual standpoint.
The Wikipedia entry on "Transgender" makes up a great deal of my facts for this blog post. Most of what I've typed, however, relates to personal opinions and items I've picked up from visiting multiple sites online. So let's begin!
--- Transgender in General ---
^ from: www.dailykos.com, by way of photobucket.com - Created by transgender activist Monica Helms in 1999, this is the Transgender Pride Flag. It consists of horizontal bands of two baby baby blue and pink with a single white stripe in the middle.
I have a diverse international audience. I've had readers and hits from every continent (except Antarctica for obvious reasons), various Caribbean nations, various South Pacific nations, a few Indian Ocean nations, and elsewhere. When you have a vast and expansive audience, you have to be aware that your audience is diverse in customs and beliefs as much as they are diverse in where they come from. Among one of those aspects of an international audience is that of transgender. Depending on where you live, they are either accepted to some degree or punishable by any number of penalties... including death. According to Wikipedia, the following nations have certain liberties granted to transgendered folk (source: Wikipedia):
• Canada - legal recognition of sex changes. • Mexico - can legally change legal gender and name. Done only in Mexico City, Mexico. • Uruguay - can legally change legal gender and name. • Iceland - sex changes are legal. • India - vote as "other" (or "O") in political elections and for passports. • Japan - legal gender can be changed, but only after sexual reassignment surgery
This is only some of so many different countries that either acknowledge or disallow LGBT rights. To read the full list of LGBT rights by country, visit this Wikipedia entry on LGBT rights by country and read about if there are any laws concerning gender identity and/or expression.
There are many names for certain transgendered folk depending on where you live and in what culture you're associated with. There are names associated with them including (but not limited to): ladyboys, newhalf, kathoey/katoey (Thailand), hijra (South Asian nations), all among other [acceptable] names. I mentioned acceptable names because the term most disliked in describing transgendered people is shemale (unless in the adult entertainment industry).
So many people have only so much understanding and knowledge of transgendered folk and the many issues facing them that some people just need to be better educated and better aware of transgendered folk. Because of this, many have a one-sided view on these people. Some like to say these are diseased people. People who think of being transgender as a disease think of transgenderism as a disease that can be remedied, like treating a sore throat. Even worse... rather than "he" or "she," some use "it" as a pronoun to describe a transgendered person. A lot of transgendered people have had many issues regarding themselves and being around others. Part of their struggles relate to being discontent with the body they were born in and with their assigned gender.
If you want to look at this topic in a certain light, note that there is sort of an exploratory phase most people have, especially early in life. Such an exploratory phase involves (especially in the case of males) males wearing certain feminine garments. A little boy who has a little sister may dress up in his sister's clothes. Or in the case of a boy and his mother, the boy may wear some of mom's clothes for fun. Even I once wore a jumper dress that my mom wore back when I was a little boy. Sampling of clothes from one's other gender is part of an exploratory phase of transgenderism, but it doesn't LEAD to wanting to crossdressing or transsexualism. It only leads to becoming transgender when there is either discontent with one's birth gender or with finding a certain thrill in wearing clothes from the other gender.
This section was just basic insight on transgendered people. A little more insight, including how I eventually become involved with this topic, will be explained in the next section.
--- Understanding Transgender ---
How did I get into this topic? How did I educate myself on transgendered folk? I'll explain here as well as give you a few basic bits of info on transgendered folk.
My Education of Transgender.
This is going to sound corny or unrealistic, but I once saw "The Jerry Springer Show" back in 2000 or 2001 when one guest shown up on stage. I think it was one female guest's brother (named Dakota) who came out looking pretty appealing. Being the artist and artistic thinker I am, I became immensely curious and fascinated at how beautiful a crossdresser or transsexual can be. The ability to be taken and regarded as a member of the opposite sex is often referred to as being passable. Being passable relates to how much a transgendered person can be perceived as and accepted as someone from one's opposite sex.
So on my own, I decided to educate myself on transgendered people. I visited websites and even been in some America Online (AOL these days) chat rooms trying to learn more about transgendered people. I started to grasp an understanding of them. I understood transgendered people better as I became more educated about them. Over time, I even wanted to connect with transgendered people online as friends to increase my knowledge and to just meet new people.
I never got to meet someone transgendered in person until one day in 2007 or so. I am cautious in giving names out, but I met a young man in a bathroom at my community college. He had beautifully long blonde hair. I thought initially he was in the wrong bathroom. But when I talked with him, he was a nice guy. I saw him again in the hallways dressed up like a girl. He had a different hairstyle, a T-shirt, some jeans with glittery back pockets, black flip-flop sandals, and painted toenails. This young man is a transvestite, and I met his feminine half right before me. It is important I mention this person because he was the first transvestite I got to meet. I even wanted to connect with him online. If he needed encouragement or kind words, all he needed to do was email me. He had some drug problems, so I was gravely concerned for his health. I am not sure what happened to him. I hope he's alright.
So I learned from a TV show, did my own research and education to better understand something for myself, and made myself a better and wiser person as a result. Epic win? Your call.
Basic Terms.
Transgender, like almost any subculture, has many different variations. I am using transgender as an umbrella term, but there are many varieties of transgendered folk. There are four primary terms I want to touch up on to make this section complete, all of which noted by subsections.
--- Transvestites --- ^ from: www.afrobella.com - Drag queens are the most common transvestites. And yes- this one in this picture is a deity in the realm: RuPaul.
Transvestites enjoy crossdressing (crossdresser and transvestite mean the same thing or are very similar at the least) and living as their gender opposite either as a hobby or as a lifestyle. Because it is for hobby or lifestyle, they often do not seriously consider wanting to have surgery or want to permanently become their opposite gender. Many transvestites, especially drag queens, usually wear a number of items to help enhance their image and look as fabulous as they like. Some items include things like wigs, breast forms, and various intimate and body-shaping apparel (like corsets) to help drag queens look and feel their best. Drag queens even have fun going by certain aliases and stage names.
Some transvestites, however, find a sexual thrill in wearing clothing from the opposite gender. This leads to fetishistic crossdressing. Some find sensual thrills in crossdressing that they enjoy the feeling of wearing clothing from the opposite gender as well as acting as the opposite gender. This can be a problem if with an opposite sex partner, especially considering that nothing angers or discomforts a female partner like her boyfriend/fiancé/husband wearing HER clothing! It can cause a divide that could lead to relationships being broken.
It also goes to show that not all transvestites are gay. Some people immediately assume that all transvestites are gay just because they wear clothing from the opposite gender and act as a member of one's opposite gender. This is the reason why I mention transvestism as a hobby or a lifestyle (or even as a sexual thrill). Transvestites want to enjoy being an opposite sex member but want to return to being their real selves. Think of this (in a surreal way) like being Cinderella, where you become this different and fantastic person, until you return to being your original self in your original state.
--- Transsexuals --- Transsexuals are those who permanently wish to become his/her opposite sex through the means of surgery and certain exercises. Males who want to become females are often called male-to-female transsexuals (or commonly labeled "M2F" for short). Females who want to become males are often considered female-to-male transsexuals (or commonly labeled "F2M" for short). F2M transsexuals are less commonly featured than M2F transsexuals, but there are those females who want to become males.
There are two other varieties to subdivide transsexuals- pre-operative (or "pre-op") and post-operative ("post-operative") transsexuals. As their names suggest, pre-operative relates to a transsexual who either has not or has not fully developed and transitioned through surgery. Post-operative relates to those who have fully transitioned and have had all of their surgery done in becoming the person's opposite sex.
Transsexuals go through a number of different procedures to help make the transition from male to female or female to male complete. Without going into too many details, one such aspect is gender transition. This involves things like developing your voice. In the case of having surgery done to modify your body to better appear as your opposite gender, you undergo sexual reassignment surgery (or SRS). Modification of genitals, the breasts, and other body parts are all part of making the transition (at least with the body) complete. You can subdivide transsexual surgery further by two more terms- top and bottom. Top surgery relates to transsexual surgery that mostly covers the upper body and head. It is the most common in transsexual surgery. Bottom surgery relates to lower body and genitalia surgery for transsexuals. When it comes to male-to-female transsexuals, what provides the biggest controversy and stress is in having a male's genitalia removed. There are a number of transwomen who argue that true M2F transsexuals don't retain their penises after sexual reassignment surgery. These same transwomen would also think the only M2F transsexuals who decide to retain their male genitalia either are not seriously considering becoming proper M2F transsexuals or (in offensive cases) likely want to be in the adult entertainment industry as shemales. So therefore, it is a serious decision to want go through with the entire surgery and transition in becoming a true transsexual.
--- Intersex --- Intersexed people (also referred to as hermaphrodites) are people who were born with both male and female organs. A serious misconception people make is that all transgendered people are intersexed. Transgender and intersex are two COMPLETELY different concepts. Transgender relates to dressing as and living as a member of one's opposite sex; intersexed means you have both male and female organs and (to quote Lady GaGa) were "born this way."
If you have three minutes and 37 seconds to spare, here is some video commentary you can watch to learn more about intersexed people (it is blurry, so just pay attention to what is being said). Because the video is a bit touchy, I have decided to give you the link to the video rather than embed it. So watch (at your own risk) "intersex," by kimxxxyyy on YouTube.
--- Genderqueer --- If you come across someone who is genderqueer, that means the person does not associate himself/herself as any specific gender/sex. I honestly don't know enough about genderqueer to professionally discuss this. This video, however, is a cute little video with a little insight on being genderqueer from a fellow named Jason. The video is 5:45 long:
Transgender Misconceptions.
Some people make serious misconceptions regarding transgendered people. Most of those misconceptions are considered vulgar to them. For example, some use "shemale" to refer to a transgender person. Two things- (1) calling a transgendered person a "shemale" is vulgar, and (2) "shemale" is a term in the adult entertainment or pornographic industry used to describe a post-operative M2F transsexual who still has (certain male genitalia) attached. Calling any transsexual as a shemale is totally offensive. By calling a M2F transsexual a shemale, you make the assumption that (because of the adult entertainment industry) that a M2F transsexual is a male living as a woman, but still has his (male genitals) attached. You can look almost anywhere on the Internet to find a proper shemale, but don't EVER call ANY transsexual as a "shemale."
"Transgender" as a term is a misconception to most people, though I am carefully using it as an umbrella term.
These are only a few misconceptions that I am discussing for my initial blog post. I may come up with more in future edits.
The Trap Factor.
One of the biggest issues when encountering transgendered people is the trap factor. What is defined as a trap factor is in being easily tricked into thinking a female is a real female and born a female (we use terms like "genetic" to mean people born as their birth gender. Example: genetic girl). When the truth is revealed that what someone believes is a real female/male, most people freak out at the notion that someone is actually a male/female or born a male/female. The trap factor becomes most apparent in loving relationships. A male who wants to start a family with a transgendered female may get the shock of his life when the transgendered female discloses that she was born a male. It can be very difficult to actually disclose to someone as being a transvestite or transsexual. Therefore, the trap factor can be a damaging quality in more ways than one.
Media Portrayal of Transgendered Folk.
Crossdressing is often used in a number of entertainment deals. Certain actors dress up as females for TV and movie roles. There are also some shows that portray transgendered folk in a variety of ways. There is a reality TV competition called "RuPaul's Drag Race." However, most people have been exposed to transsexuals (negatively) with The Jerry Springer Show. Transgendered guests on Jerry Springer either are sexy flings or people who fail to disclose they were born a man/woman.
IN CASE YOU'RE INTERESTED: If you want to view some related reading on dating transsexuals, read my "Same-Sex Relationships" blog post and go down to the section about transgender dating.
From terms, to misconceptions, to media portrayal of transgendered folk... you now have a more coherent understanding of transgendered people.
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• personal and psychological aspects of being transgendered • transgendered children? • dangers for transgendered youth • resources for transgendered people
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--- Personal and Psychological Aspects of Transgender ---
A lot of people don't have (or don't care for) a general grasp on transgendered people. Therefore, when they try to act like they know everything about them, these people end up offending the transgender audience. Either that, or they discuss a number of things that they intentionally or unintentionally know is hurtful to transgendered types. There is nothing I really hate than when people think transgenders are diseased. There are cultural and religious connotations (look elsewhere online for religious matters- I do NOT specialize in this topic) regarding transgendered folk.
Certain issues come into play when discussing transgender issues. For a lot of people who become involved in transgenderism, one of the biggest elements is in finding people within them. Some people feel they were born in the wrong body and want surgery to become their opposite. Some who become older in life discover some sort of person within them that wants to emerge, usually of their opposite gender. There are four key points I want to discuss: being born in the wrong body, finding that opposite half within you, sexual arousal in wearing clothes from the opposite sex, and the biggest issue of transgenders- being accepted by others.
Born in the Wrong Body.
More than just alter egos, some who feel born in the wrong body have a psychological condition often referred to as gender identity disorder (or GID), where people feel discontent and unhappy with themselves with the gender they are born as. Remember- do NOT think of transgenderism as turning on a switch to become someone different. The psychological aspect of being transgender can stem from a number of different experiences and personal feelings. This is about much more than simply wearing clothes for fun. Some people truly and honestly feel they were born in the wrong body and want to take steps to take on a new life.
People Within.
I'm not talking about Beyoncé and Sasha Fierce. I'm talking about those who feel they were born in the wrong body or have some person within them different in personality and gender. I'm talking about a male named (and I am using sample names) Michael who has a person inside of him named Michelle. I'm talking about people who want to emerge from their original self to let their inner person emerge.
How does one person discover their opposite half? It can happen from a number of perspectives. One such perspective can begin with a desire to take on a new personality and wear certain clothing while also acting as a member of one's opposite sex. In its initial phases, a person discovers his/her opposite half. He/She envisions what this opposite half loves to wear and how that inner person reacts with society. The problem for most transgendered people isn't finding that opposite half... but coming out AS that opposite half. Therein lies the problem- having that person emerge. Not every transgendered person immediately has the power, confidence, or bravery to emerge as one's opposite half. You may often hear the expression "closet crossdresser" to denote someone who just wears clothes from the opposite gender around the house and not have the courage to come out and emerge as one's opposite half.
Transgender Fetishes and Sexual Thrills.
There is also a transgender perspective based on sexual thrills. Some who find sexual gratification or sexual enjoyment out of crossdressing usually crossdress for sexual purposes or fetishes. These are people who find sexual enjoyment out of wearing clothing from the opposite sex. Part of the initial fascination can begin with wearing certain clothes of the opposite sex and becoming sexually aroused wearing them. For example, a male could wear lingerie or a very feminine skirt and become aroused and attracted to how soft the feel of these garments and intimates are. The softness of the fabric and the feeling of wearing such clothes and intimates lend themselves to fetishistic crossdressing (at the least). In addition, this can also lead to wearing swimwear for beach/resort environments.
Acceptance.
Perhaps the most stressful element of being transgender is being accepted among others. There are some family members and friends who would absolutely detest someone wanting to be a transvestite or a transsexual. Just the feeling of being disrespected and disregarded can sever relationships and loving bonds almost permanently.
Just the notion of not being happy with your own gender and your own body is enough to bring most people to depression. Even more so if your own family and friends don't want to accept you. Some of my long-time readers may have read my blog post on transgendered pop star Kim Petras. Kim Petras used to be a boy named Tim before becoming the beautiful Kim. Her parents were very understanding of Kim and got such support to go through with the whole operation. She got hormone replacement therapy when (then) Tim was 12, then got gender reassignment surgery at age 16.
The first-ever transvestite friend of mine dressed up as a girl, until his grandmother talked about wanting him to no longer wear women's clothes if he expects to live in her house. That's why acceptance is such a key issue long-term. Not being accepted and loved just leads to more depression and more sadness. It could even increase suicidal tendencies in extreme cases. It's why a number of transgendered folk feel so strongly about being accepted among others.
It is these four issues (among others) that are among the biggest in regards to transgendered people. How these are handled and addressed vary greatly.
--- Confidence as Someone Transgendered ---
So you decide to come out as a transvestite or a transsexual. How do you gain confidence in yourself as your opposite half? How do you be and remain confident as a drag queen or as a pre-operative or post-operative transsexual? PLEASE note that I am not speaking from ANY sort of personal experience, so these are just personal opinions of mine.
Just like in fashion, a confident person is a stylish person. Same applies to transgendered people. You have developed the confidence to come out transvestite or transsexual. The next part of the task is to live in society as a transgendered person. It isn't as easy to do such, as you've read in my section regarding personal and psychological issues involving transgendered folk. Some transgendered people can't even confidently walk outside the house, go to the store, go to the mall, be at school/college, or any place like that as your new self.
If you fear not being completely passable, I think the most important thing is about just being yourself. I've known girly-looking guys and boyish-looking girls. Don't predicate yourself as transgendered on the basis of looking inconceivably like the gender opposite of your birth gender. Life should never be a competition. Don't feel like you have to outdo everybody in trying to be the most handsome or beautiful person in the city. Just be yourself rather than try to consistently compete with everybody else. In fact, this is even good advice for people in various subcultures.
Just be yourself and confidently go into the world as a transgendered person! And if you can... live life with little or no regrets.
--- Transgendered Youth Focus: Transgendered Children ---
Yes- even children can feel they were born in the wrong body! This represents a percentage of children who feel born in the wrong body. You have already read about gender dysphoria earlier in this blog post. Imagine being the parent(s) of a child unhappy with his/her birth gender. Raising a child is tough work in itself; imagine raising a child who is not happy with his/her birth gender. Not as many people are aware that children can be unhappy with their birth gender as much as anyone who is at least a teenager. One part of that percentage of children who feel born in the wrong body is a boy who became a girl named Jazz. This was little Jazz at only seven years old in an interview:
I am always careful in topics pertaining to children. It can be too easy to post something to lead to protest and dislike. However... it's reality. I tried to find some statistics regarding transgendered children or of any transsexual surgery done to children, but I have been unable to find any in my initial blog post. I may edit this section with more information if I do find any.
Transgendered Children at a Glance.
In a 20/20 special in 2007, there was a special called "I'm a Girl" involving transgendered children. I saw some YouTube videos long ago featuring the stories of children unhappy with their gender and feel born in the wrong body. It was really powerful to think that even children can be discontent with their own gender. To me, children should be able to frolic and play and have fun. They shouldn't have to worry about any serious issues while they are still young. The fact is, however, that is not always the case. A child unhappy with his/her birth gender is something that concerns the child himself/herself and (more importantly) the parents. It has been the parents' responsibility to help raise and nurture children. When a child is unhappy about his/her birth gender, a massive responsibility has to be taken in trying to get help for the child. Some truly understanding (as well as financially able) parents will help to get the various surgeries and procedures done to properly transition a boy/girl into a girl/boy.
Little Jazz in the above video is one of many different transgendered kids featured as part of the TransKids Purple Rainbow Foundation. Here is more information on this cause:
The TransKids Purple Rainbow Foundation is a non-profit organization based in Boca Raton, Florida, USA dedicated to transgendered children. It is dedicated to things like education of, providing encouragement to families of, encouraging school systems to have better acceptance and proper rights of, and various other powers for transgendered children and their families. To learn more about this cause or to donate, please visit www.transkidspurplerainbow.com (or click on the header, which is the same site).
Don't worry- this link will appear later in this blog post when I link you to online resources for transgenders of all kinds.
--- Transgendered Youth Focus: Teenagers ---
^ from: thesun.co.uk - Kim Petras (whom I have featured in a past blog post) is an example of a transgendered teen. She had her transitions at an early age, going from a boy named Tim to a beautiful girl named Kim. She made waves as a 16 year old with her pop star aspirations. Read my blog post on Kim Petras for more on.
When you're young, you obviously think of a lot of things in your life. Some decisions you may make early in your life can have a serious impact heading into the later years of your life. What is most disheartening is knowing that certain decisions could possibly get you killed or badly injured. Teens can lack the confidence to proudly come out as a transgendered person, whether as a transvestite or a transsexual. Considering being around peers, it becomes increasingly tough to try to become content dealing with unruly peers in school or elsewhere.
One of the saddest stories in transgendered youth is nearing its tenth anniversary. On October 19, 2002; a teen named Gwen Araujo was killed in Newark, CA, USA. Gwen (born Edward) went to a house party in Newark, CA, USA (30 miles away from San Francisco) as a girl named "Lida." She was beaten to death at this party by four men when the girlfriend of one of the men found out Gwen was transsexual. A vigil in Gwen's honor was held. Gwen's story would later be reflected in a Lifetime movie (or at least as a TV movie) called "A Girl Like Me: The Gwen Araujo Story." I saw most of the movie once on the Lifetime Movie Network.
--- Dangers for Transgendered Youth ---
Being young and gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgendered can really put a young person in grave danger. That is why I am most concerned for any teenager experiencing this, and especially in the context of this blog post, regarding transgendered teens.
When you're young and have to deal with society and peers, you will encounter people who feel very strongly about things and are unafraid to impose their will on those who are (so to speak) out of line. Part of being in society is in blending in with other people. Blending in, however, can be very difficult. People have personalities that lead them to ridicule and abuse by peers. Most of my blog post has been about transgendered people, but this can relate to anyone in the LGBT realm. In the case of transgendered youth, any number of damaging actions and behaviors can lead to abuse and even death. Nothing is more difficult to bear than young people dying or getting killed.
We do so much to try to bring together many people of many kinds into mainstream society. Yet, there are times when some members of society find it best to impose their will on anyone who is seen out of line of mainstream society that it merits abuse. Some people can't live with themselves or live with decisions and beliefs they have to where some feel it is absolutely necessary to be chastised by anyone who is too different to be considered acceptable. Schools have to expel students who are transgendered. Peers have to chastise (in varying degrees) any transgendered teen to some sort of degree.
Transgendered youth is even more frightening with transgendered children. I am even more gravely concerned for transgendered children than I am transgendered teenagers.
I may consider making a future blog post regarding LGBT and mainstream society. Stay tuned to "John's Blog Space" if I do post a blog post about this topic.
--- Final Thoughts on Transgender ---
What you have read (and perhaps experienced) was a factual and educational look at transgendered people. I am a man of quality, and so I did not stoop to showcasing people in any sort of negative or humorous light. There are a number of people online who would post any kind of distasteful comments and pictures regarding transgendered people. Once you begin to understand and connect with transgendered folk, you understand all the various emotions and actions associated with them. They become the butt of so many different jokes. Mainstream society, media, and multimedia all try to showcase aspects of transgendered folk as a source of humor or of disgrace. Too many people either have a one-sided view of transgenders or completely disregard transgendered people for all the issues they have.
I did not mention transgendered people in any sort of comedic or sarcastic context. I made mention to crossdressing for fun, but not in the context of crossdressing for casual reasons (like a male losing a bet and have to wear a skirt or dress). I did not mention transsexuals in any sort of disrespect. My blog post was long and detailed regarding transgendered people, but that's because I want people and would-be transphobic types to be better understanding and respectful of these people. This topic of transgender involves so many aspects that just a few paragraphs isn't going to cut it. You may be able to introduce people to it with a few paragraphs, but it takes a lot more to truly EXPLAIN everything.
Transgendered people are not the scum of the earth. They are not the butt of jokes. They are not people who exist only for a quick laugh or some sort of reaction. There may be countries that have different regulations and recognition levels of transgendered people, but they are not monsters or aliens. Being transgender is not a disease; it's not like feeling born in the wrong body is anything that can be cured with medicine. They are humans, like you and I. They breathe the same air we do, drink the same water we do, eat the same food we do, communicate the same way we do, and countless other human actions and interactions. My blog post was an attempt to better educate my audience and any would-be haters. You don't have to like transgendered people, but at least offer them some semblance of respect. Don't look at transgendered people as fake males/females who are only good for laughs and abuse. Instead, they want to be regarded and respected as any average human.
If any actual transgendered people have read this blog post, I hope I've respectfully talked about this issue with professionalism and respect. Let me know if I did a good enough job or if I need to improve on something.
--- Transgender Links and Resources Online ---
I can respectfully discuss this topic because I have met some people in person and online whom are trasngendered, be it a transvestite or a transsexual. I would never post anything that lacks professionalism or quality. I am very well aware that I may mess something up or miss some facts. I will not, however, stoop to any low by posting anything guaranteed to offend my audience. So you have my word that I'll discuss this topic to the best of my ability with professionalism and respect. I sometimes bear an important responsibility to post material professionally online that may potentially be of use to others.
Now maybe my blog post has made you more tolerant and aware of transgendered people than you might have been before reading this blog post. Everything was provided in an educational and professional context. It is now time for me to post some resources for you to learn more about transgendered people across a number of different aspects. I will begin with perhaps one of the most well-respected resources regarding transgender issues. Please have a look:
NOTE: More links and resources may be provided in future edits. Contact me if you have any other useful resources that may be of use to my readers/visitors.
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"One million good deeds are coming to Houston," says a local nonprofit organization called The Encouragement Project. I was inspired to blog about this nonprofit and paying it forward. I was first introduced to this project by watching CW 39 News at 5 (especially CW 39 News at 5:30). Here is the video segment that aired on CW 39 News. Mia Gradney is the anchor, and Steve Mark is the reporter:
^ courtesy: 39online.com
And here is a YouTube video that offers up thoughts on what The Encouragement Project is all about:
This blog post is a two-for-one: I'm chatting about The Encouragement Project, and I also want to talk about paying it forward. It is mostly supposed to be about The Encouragement Project, but I also want to talk about paying it forward to add some more spice to this blog post. So I hope you enjoy both elements of this blog post!
IMPORTANT NOTE:
I am not paid or endorsed by The Encouragement Project. This is not any kind of testimonial or anything. I am simply providing this as exposure and for educational purposes. All commentary expressed in this blog post (and in my others) are all my own personal commentary.
--- The Encouragement Project and the One-in-a-Million Project ---
The Encouragement Project is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit (or not-for-profit) founded by Brian Figat, a former creative arts pastor for Baypoint Church in Texas City, to deliver promise and hope to the greater Houston area. Brian Figat came up with a fundraiser by challenging his congregation to give up one cup of coffee a week for eleven weeks. Did the congregation step up? Well, they raised over $10,000 USD for their fundraiser! So, it was obviously a great success. To me, the One-in-a-Million Project by The Encouragement Project is a great opportunity to provide a smile to faces who otherwise weren't expecting such good deeds to come their way. That shows generosity and kindness. Nothing is more heartwarming than being the recipient of a good deed... even if you weren't expecting one. It is one of life's pleasant surprises when an anonymous stranger comes around and offers you something kind or sweet.
The goal of the "One-in-a-Million Campaign" is to (according to their website) "perform and inspire one million good deeds in the city of Houston." Houston is a city of about 5.6 million people. That takes a LOT of inspiration to provide over one million good deeds! That's like taking roughly 1/5 of Houston's population and performing deeds city-wide and area-wide to help offer kindness and benevolence to others. It is a method of paying it forward. It is not about one person offering service to others and expecting some tangible token of respect in return. Instead, the pay it forward approach is in offering acts of kindness to others WITHOUT asking for or expecting anything in return. You just offer an act of benevolence to those who otherwise don't expect having an act of kindness acted upon them. No progress is made unless random acts of kindness are committed and documented. Their goal is to have over one-million benevolent acts committed.
Final Thoughts on the "One-in-a-Million" Project.
I was amazingly touched by the story I saw on CW 39 News (that you just saw in the video earlier) that I wanted to blog about it. Maybe the best aspect of this story was that the news segment featured a 4-year old boy offering smiles to others. Being that young and doing good deeds for others can set him up for the future and help build his character for years to come. It makes you a better person as you grow up. Paying it forward is all about acting out of yourself to help or inspire someone who otherwise is unsuspecting of such benevolence. You care more about helping an unsuspecting, good-hearted stranger rather than help someone out while asking for something in return.
Remember that this blog post is also about paying it forward; not just about The Encouragement Project. Get ready to read the second part of this blog post.
--- Paying it Forward ---
The rest of this blog post is about Paying it Forward and what all it entails. Have an enjoyable read.
What is Meant By "Paying it Forward?"
Pay it forward is an expression about doing good deeds for unsuspecting people without expecting anything in return. It is about offering an act of kindness to others because you WANT to make someone's life better, even if only for a few seconds.
Paying it Forward Explained.
For many people, though, we seem suspicious or potentially targeted when a total stranger offers an act of benevolence to someone. We sometimes are not sure why are given such benevolent acts. Some of us who feel suspicious sometimes wonder if the person is trying to set you up for something damaging in the future or if there are any strings attached or rabbit punches in store for you in the future. But in my view, receiving an act of kindness from a good-hearted total stranger shows generosity and respect. The person doesn't know you personally, yet still wants to offer his/her benevolent energy and services to you. That is probably the reason why there aren't more people willing to offer an act of kindness to an unsuspecting person.
It doesn't take much to deliver a smile or help someone feel better. I mean, simply saying "hello" to someone is enough to draw a smile. People feel respected when you greet them. Opening doors for other people is surely a benevolent act. One thing I always want to do is help people feel better even if only for a few seconds. There is so much negativity that goes on in our world that we sometimes forget there are honest-to-goodness people out there doing great things for others. The good deeds don't have to be to the magnitude of "The Oprah Winfrey Show" or "Extreme Makeover: Home Edition," but just the fact that someone cares and is willing to devote his/her energy to help others feel better is certainly praiseworthy.
Pay it Forward: Honorable Mention!
I want to give honorable mention to a movie I've heard of, but never seen. Most of the thoughts of paying it forward are expressed in this movie. The movie features Kevin Spacey, Helen Hunt, and Haley Joel Osment. Here is a trailer to the 2000 Warner Bros. movie entitled "Pay it Forward" below:
Like this movie? Check it out on Amazon:
--- In Case You are Reading (and enjoying) This... ---
I now want to offer words to people who are (or may be) reading this blog post. So...
In Case Anyone from The Encouragement Project is Reading This...
This is a great-sounding cause. I wish you the absolute best in keeping this project running strong. Anything to make life better in a wonderful city like Houston is vastly appreciated and admired. I wish you the absolute best of luck in accomplishing your goals for all of your projects.
In Case Anyone Who Pays it Forward is Reading This...
You represent some of the great people in the world. It doesn't take much to make an unsuspecting person or total stranger happy. There is so much negative that we are introduced to in this world that we need people like you (among others) to help pass along positivity and hope to this world. You care more about helping others and offering smiles rather than doing so in expecting some sort of prize or honor.
To learn more about The Encouragement Project and of their programs, visit www.encouragehouston.org. You can also visit this site to share your stories of paying it forward and good deeds you've committed for others. You may also visit these resources to learn more about The Encouragement Project:
A charity I most respect is the United States Marines' Toys for Tots Foundation. Let me spend a little time to share my mind with all of you regarding this charity and what I think makes it such a worthy cause. It is my chance to share this charity in my blog here.
NOTE: This blog entry is all a commentary piece with my own personal commentary. I am not endorsed by or paid to post this blog entry (or for any of my other blog posts). Everything is all personal commentary and exposure.
Toys for Tots and Christmas Commentary.
^ from: meetatmaggies.com - Toys for Tots logo.
When it comes to Christmas, this is a festive and happy time of year. That happiness, however, isn't very pleasing when you are either a family struggling to get by from day-to-day or when you have children in the hospital who may never get to enjoy Christmas as most other kids and families. What I think makes Toys for Tots a very likeable cause (how can you HATE it?) is that the generosity of many other people and families helping to offer toys to those who most need them. Let's face it- Christmas is NOT fun when you're a kid that doesn't have toys or doesn't have any way to feel fun and festive. While no one good person should ever have to experience any sort of physical, emotional, or financial pain; children should never feel like life is horrible or that they can't be festive and happy. As for financially-struggling families, it's even more heart-wrenching because they don't have the money to provide their children with the hottest toys and gadgets and such for Christmas.
Because of these reasons, Toys for Tots is an invaluable cause to help make Christmas happier for those in need. I remember one time I saw a few U.S. Marines at a Toys for Tots stand. I think one guy was telling me you know, give what you have. Doesn't have to be toys. Money can be donated. The real task here is to help families who most need the support. Any time you donate to a viable charity sure to make a difference in others' lives, you feel good knowing you have made someone's Christmas brighter. That's what I love about Toys for Tots.
If Any U.S. Marines May be Reading This...
If you are a United States Marine involved with Toys for Tots (or even if you are not), let me thank you first and foremost for defending and protecting this great nation. It is great of you to get involved with a great cause like Toys for Tots. You all are wonderful men and women and tremendous assets to defending the USA. Any Marines serving overseas... keep up the great work and come home safely (along with the rest of our troops).
Formerly its own page, I have made this its own blog entry. I will feature various causes and such that you can donate to or contribute to. I'm terribly sorry I haven't consistently looked for good material to feature. What you will see is a variety of causes you can contribute to online or learn more about. I'm not looking for loads of traffic or a sufficient amount of comments- this blog entry is about is about helping others who most need the support.
I thank everyone who found my blog and want to find ways to help any or all of the causes listed below.
EXTRA NOTE: The new "Services" blog label is for various things I want people to check out as a way of saying thanks for visiting.
--- Causes and Charities: Why Bother? ---
The primary reason to donate to charity is because there are people who most need the support. Or for successful charities and causes, these are listed just to keep them charitable. They can be profit or non-profit (or not-for-profit) causes. I've went through all the trouble of featuring these because I would love for people to be more appreciative and kind to others who most need support. Showcasing these links is the very least I can do.
--- Causes and Charities: How This Blog Entry Works ---
I will feature a cause or charity in a hyperlink. I will feature some information on the given cause. You are free to click on the link to learn more about it and/or to donate. If a site does not count international donations, I will be sure to note that. Here is an example:
--- SAMPLE --- * Cause. (restrictions on donations) Info about this cause.
Donate to (Cause): Cause's Website
Having said that, let's begin! Remember that this blog entry may be regularly updated to include more content.
--- Causes and Charities ---
This blog entry may be updated regularly to include more content. If you think there is a cause that I should include here, use my "Contact and Feedback" page.
I am not endorsed in any such way by any of these causes; I am only providing them for exposure and to help get people to take some time and provide viable donations via the Internet. The majority of these causes featured are in the United States and may or may not allow international donations. I mention international donations since my blog gets blog hits from around the world, and if anyone wants to contribute internationally, there may be trouble in trying to get your donation going. I will still do my best to showcase as many causes as I can.
* U.S. Marines' Toys for Tots Foundation.(USA donations only) One thing I hate about the Holidays is when children don't have any toys to play with. I'm such a fan of Toys for Tots because they do an excellent job to help make Christmas bright for children and their families. Think of parents who barely get by financially and can't provide enough to feed and entertain their children. Think of children who feel depressed rather than happy on a festive time of year like Christmas. You don't have to make children suffer! Be sure to donate money, toys, your vehicle, ANYTHING to help children in need. For more information on donation info for Toys for Tots, please click on the link below this paragraph.
* Locks of Love.(USA donations only(?)) From my very popular "Long Hair" blog entry, Locks of Love is a non-profit organization based in West Palm Beach, Florida, USA dedicated to helping children regrow hair by way of generous hair donations from people like you. Click on "Donate to LOL" to find out how you can contribute to this cause and to . Donation/Volunteer info for Locks of Love
* God's Special Angel(USA donations only(?)) Amy Barbera's cause is predicated on helping children in need. The singer from Fort Lauderdale, Florida, USA is beautiful not only in looks, but also in heart. Her music captivates and inspires all who listens to it. Her music provides power and inspiration, and you can provide both of these things to children who most need it by visiting the website above. Click on the link I've provided to learn more about how you can help Amy Barbera and God's Special Angel.
This blog entry used to be a Blogspot page. Now, it's its own blog post. This page features links to artists and groups that I like and that you can check out. Be sure to have a look at all of these artists and groups that I've featured. More will be added in further installments.
PLEASE NOTE: This blog entry will be updated from time to time with new links and new material. So visit this page often to check out what musical talents I have to showcase for you.
^ from: wellnessenergycoaching.com - the beautiful and inspirational Amy Barbera. This is the cover to her "Beautiful Flower of Life" CD.
Amy Barbera was an artist I've come across on Myspace when I got a Friend Request from her. Her music is inspirational as her positive heart pours openly to give hope to those who most need it. Her voice is beautiful while her music is even more beautiful. It's probably fitting she's from Florida because she brings sunshine (since Florida is nicknamed "The Sunshine State") to people with cloudy days in their lives. Listen to her music, but also listen to some of the lyrics. I don't notice lyrics very often, but she does have some powerful messages sung along with her sweet voice.
Amy Barbera will blow you away. She is a beautiful goddess with an angelic heart and singing divine music for you. If that's not enough reason for you to want to listen to her music, I don't know what is. All I know is you can hear... I mean, experience Amy Barbera for yourself here: Amy Barbera on Myspace.
(As of Sep. 21, 2010) Amy Barbera did not win the Susan Boyle singing competition, whereas contestants must sing "Silent Night." That's okay. She's still a champion to all who love and adore her music (like I do).
Anieszka was a young lady I came across first on Myspace. She sings R&B and pop-style music. She aspires to become a world-renowned music star. She is very beautiful, but not just in looks. Her voice is angelic. There is very little doubt that she'll become a future star. In fact, I'm willing to say right now that she's one of the best singers and/or performers anywhere in the world under 21. Puts her in a class with other great under-21 (at least as of 8/8/2010) musicians like Selena Gomez, Demi Lovato, Taylor Swift, and others.
^ from: 8notes.com - Taylor Swift and her gloriously beautiful curly hair.
If you've never heard of Taylor Swift, you obviously need to catch up with current times. Taylor Swift is a beautiful curly-haired country-pop superstar. She has a loving passion of playing music and creating all kinds of amazing music. Born in Wyomissing, Pennsylvania and growing up on a Christmas tree farm, Taylor Swift has an unrivaled passion for making music. Her stardom has won her award after award, and she's even been in various television and movie roles, even including hosting Saturday Night Live. Perhaps the most special thing about her is that while she's amazingly popular, she is no diva or all-about-me girl.
Taylor Swift is also pretty silly and funny. She brings lighthearted humor that just further solidifies how awesome she really is. Something is wrong with you if you don't even crack a smile or laugh out loud to some of her jokes or her silly moments. From a fashion standpoint, I've always looked at Taylor as a girl who'll wear a lovely dress along with a cute pair of boots (usually cowboy boots). I think if she decides to get away from music to pursue becoming an entertainer or actress, she has an amazing future ahead of her in those departments.
^ from: starchatenterprise.net - Kristine Mirelle from New Mexico has a style of piano and singing as the likes of Alicia Keys.
Hailing from The Land of Enchantment (New Mexico), Kristine Mirelle is a lovely artist who sings a variety of songs. A sweet voice and sexy style are complimented with lovely piano instruments and awesome beats.
^ from: amazon.com - The deliciously sexy Tey Punsalan.
A silky and sexy voice is supplemented by one Tey Punsalan. The Filipina can sing beautifully and with silky songs either in English or tagalog. She'll blow you away with her amazing singing.
This young singer is reminiscent of Charlotte Church when Charlotte used to do soprano music. She sings a combination of classical-type songs and even some Hawaiian music. Her singing will blow your away.
Think Arielle is a beautiful name? Wait until you hear her sing. The Arizona singer has a style and voice a bit like Taylor Swift. A number of her songs are like rock fused with pop. Her music is quite enjoyable. Go ahead... have a listen to her music by going to her Myspace page!
^ from: mog.com - The FABS. The lady in the front is Fabiola Gatti from Uruguay.
The FABS are a beach pop group based in the United Kingdom. The FABS requested me as a friend on Myspace a long time ago. The lead singer is the very cute Fabiola Gatti from Uruguay. With weather warming up (as of 3/21/2010), why not get to enjoy the beach culture with a lovely group like The FABS?
^ from: coreyj.com - Italian-born Francesca Maria, a beautiful pop singer.
Francesca Maria is as beautiful a singer as she is a dancer. Born in Italy, this Italian diva is sexy in her moves as she is with her music. Let this beautiful lady show some awesome moves and sing some awesome music. Visit the link above to visit her Myspace profile, or check out Francesca Marie's YouTube channel!
^ from: american-idol.matters.com - Sheena Melwani. Isn't she pretty? :)
Sheena Melwani is a beautiful young Boston-area artist with a divine voice. Let her beautiful singing captivate your heart. Visit these links for more information:
